Came across this on some FB group. It ignited a war of words within me. It’s always been a topic of debate.
Yes I am from that generation. (Most of us are.) I was one of those kids. I had seen my mother sacrificing everything only to make us happy. Somewhere deep down I also had that feeling that sacrifice is the only way to live.
This type of conditioning need to be changed. Of course, parents are not doing this intentionally. They are not telling or teaching their children to sacrifice for other’s happiness. They are just doing what they have learnt by watching their parents. And their children see them and learn. Children learn what they see.
As the time passes and kids grow up, it becomes a habit. Sacrificing and compromising is now a part of the behavior. As a kid and still in teenage, they continue to think of others (definitely our loved ones) before “own self”. This mindset, if not changed and, if freezes deep down in roots of mind, will do no good but bad. So,this wiring need a repair-maintenance in today’s world.
Time has changed and so should we.
I am not saying that don’t think about others at all. It is like “don’t think of others at the cost of your own self”. As I grow up I realized that it is more important to make “yourself” happy before others. Whenever making others happy calls for a sacrifice or a compromise, never take that call. If ever you do or if you have to then don’t call it a relation. It was just a give-take business.
NOW I am shifting focus of my camera to “myself” from others.
Now, I am not going to sacrifice any damn thing for anyone out there. Yes you heard me right.. I won’t. Till now I had done what I did. Now I will live my own life.. making ME happy first.. then others.
Ask yourself – Happy me or happy others ?? I agree I am not that that kind who will always be happy to make others happy (and myself unhappy). I will be happy if I am happy. Without sacrifices without compromises. As simple as that.
Let us live our OWN life happily.
I started loving myself and will going to be happy. JUST FOR ME.. YES CALL ME SELFISH.
One of my very good friend told me. She is so true saying this.
“Khud ke liye bahut baar bura banana padta he. And when this happens you learn better that it is just you and yourself who matters.”
So, Come on world call me bad, call me selfish, call me arrogant but this is me.. This is happy me and free me.
P.S. alright I am taking this risk of writing this. I challenged myself to be me and no more hiding. No hard feelings.
P.P.S – I do not care for what people think of me. What i think of myself is what matters. Breaking my “statue” in your hands.