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Focus


Came across this on some FB group. It ignited a war of words within me. It’s always been a topic of debate.

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Yes I am from that generation. (Most of us are.) I was one of those kids. I had seen my mother sacrificing everything only to make us happy. Somewhere deep down I also had that feeling that sacrifice is the only way to live.

This type of conditioning need to be changed. Of course, parents are not doing this intentionally. They are not telling or teaching their children to sacrifice for other’s happiness. They are just doing what they have learnt by watching their parents. And their children see them and learn. Children learn what they see.

As the time passes and kids grow up, it becomes a habit. Sacrificing and compromising is now a part of  the behavior. As a kid and still in teenage, they continue to think of others (definitely our loved ones) before “own self”. This mindset, if not changed and, if freezes deep down in roots of mind, will do no good but bad. So,this wiring need a repair-maintenance in today’s world.

Time has changed and so should we.

I am not saying that don’t think about others at all. It is like “don’t think of others at the cost of your own self”. As I grow up I realized that it is more important to make “yourself” happy before others. Whenever making others happy calls for a sacrifice or a compromise, never take that call. If ever you do or if you have to then don’t call it a relation. It was just a give-take business.

NOW I am shifting focus of my camera to “myself” from others.

Now, I am not going to sacrifice any damn thing for anyone out there. Yes you heard me right.. I won’t. Till now I had done what I did. Now I will live my own life.. making ME happy first.. then others.

Ask yourself – Happy me or happy others ?? I agree I am not that that kind who will always be happy to make others happy (and myself unhappy). I will be happy if I am happy. Without sacrifices without compromises. As simple as that.

Let us live our OWN life happily.

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I started loving myself and will going to be happy. JUST FOR ME.. YES CALL ME SELFISH.

 

One of my very good friend told me. She is so true saying this.

“Khud ke liye bahut baar bura banana padta he. And when this happens you learn better that it is just you and yourself who matters.”

 

So, Come on world call me bad, call me selfish, call me arrogant but this is me.. This is happy me and free me.

 

P.S. alright I am taking this risk of writing this. I challenged myself to be me and no more hiding. No hard feelings.

P.P.S – I do not care for what people think of me. What i think of myself is what matters. Breaking my “statue” in your hands.

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Say NO to Smelly Homes !!


“Household Odour” – one of the most difficult task to get rid of it for any housewife.

There are many smells in a household. Right from entering home the smell of shoe rack, then as you enter the bedroom the foul smell of wet towels, from the wardrobe to right to the “kitchen tadka” smell. The smell struggle is awful.

First and foremost remedy for all sort of smell is the cleanliness. Try and keep your home nicely clean and tidy all days. So that you don’t have to rush when guests are there.

Here are some remedies to home smells i use. These are really helpful to keep you homes guest-ready always. Ladies, In this tech-savvy world lets be some home savvy. 🙂

How i fight with house odour.. Some simple tips go like this –

1. Shoe smell can easily be cured by keeping a crumbeled newspaper into them. Yes, it is that easy. Give it a try.

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Crushed newspaper in shoes

2. For the wardrobe, as a traditional freshener i used to put those “white Naphthalene balls” in the shelves. But they play the opposite role and clothes began to smell like it. Then a new way which i follow now is to put a peice of chalk. It absorbs the humidity and repells the odour. Also keep an eye over the clothes when you put them in. They must be free from “after iron smell”. Let them dry complete and then only show them their place in the wardrobe.

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Squeezed out lemon in fridge

3. Next comes the refrigerator. As you open the door mixture of smells enter your nostrils. There may be good ones also but too many of them make the result worse. Specially when you have some culprits like home made butter, fruits, cheese etc. in your fridge. The most common mistakes women do is they put everything open, in there. Try to put everything in a closed container, as far as possible. Or just cover with plates. And for the safe side put a used squeezed out lemon on the door of the fridge. That’s it. P.S – don’t forget to tell your husband about it, otherwise he will throw it out. 😉

4. Now a days all houses have combined lat/baths , which increase the smell problem. The simple way to the toilet smell and the humid bathroom smell is to keep a small bowl of some raw salt in a corner. That will work like a charm.

 

Small Dustbin

Small Dustbin

5. The most obvious source and the main contributor to the house smell..Yes you guessed right. A Dustbin. The very simple trick for it is use a small one. 😉 Yes simple and smart trick. The sooner it will fill, sooner it will get empty. Or you can also develop a routine to throw out garbage daily.

6. Every man loves good food. Ask the wife how her nose feels like while preparing that finger licking food. The tadka smell, particularly for garlic, ginger, green chillies, i always have a running & irritated nose everytime i put this tadka. Use chimneys and exhaust fans whenever possible and open gallery gates and windows if you have. The most common trick for this is to cover the vessel the moment you put tadka. Not only smell will speard less also your kitchen walls will not get spoiled.

And finally, after all this, and daily cleanliness if it may happen that your house is smelling odour and guests are on their way. Bingo. Just use Ambi Pur Air Effect. Mind it not any other just room fresher. Ambi pur is not a room fresher. It does not just help by covering the odours it helps remove them completely! You may even use it daily. It helped me a lot.

Some other tips are –

1. Ventilation – Make sure your house has a nice ventilation system. You can open the windows and put on the fan on medioum speed for some time. It will help removing bad smell.

2. Sunlight – The best natural remedy. In this monsoon season, its not regular but whenever you can, use it. Put shoes and wet clothes in sunlight when and where possible. If sunlight comes inside your home then open that door / window and let the “power of sun” come in. It will refresh your home.

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Have a Look Inside


 

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A Scanner. Expected something very complicated inside. But see how simple it is !!

If your life is complicated make it simple..If your life is simple, don’t make it complicated !!

It’s us who make our life hard.

Linking this post to Abracabadra‘ & Bethere2day‘ Wordless Wednesday

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It’s YOUR OWN life !! Live Good.


In one of my earlier posts Addiction Redefined i mentioned about 90 / 10 Principle. Seriously, it slipped off my mind until a friend requested it and me too came across situations which remind me of this.  So here it goes..90/10 Principle by Stephen Covey

It will change your life
(or at least, the way you react to situations)

We cannot stop the car from breaking down.
The plane will be arriving late, which throws our whole schedule off.
A driver may cut us off in the traffic.

You CAN control 90% of your life – by how you react to the 10% you can’t control. You yourself can influence your attitudes, behaviors, thoughts, and words.

 

We are into the habit of reacting almost immediately to what was happening around without any attempt to control our reactions in any way. Because of that, our reactions were negative and destructive.

 

 Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 Principle.

If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You do not have to let the negative comments affect you. React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, or getting stressed out.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in the traffic?
Do you lose your temper?
Pound on the steering wheel?
Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket?
Who cares if you arrive 10 seconds later at work?
Why let the cars ruin your drive?

Remember the 90/10 Principle and don’t worry about it.

You are told you lost your job.
Why lose sleep and get irritated?
It will not work out.
Use your worrying energy and time to find a new job.

The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day.
Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant?
She has no control over what is going on.
It will just make things worse.
Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger, why stress out?

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A Different New Year Wish !!


Another 365 days gone and here comes a fresher new year to be exploited for all the opportunities you missed in last 365 days. Wish you all Another Happier New Year…hope 2014 was better and happier than 2013, a bit if not much.. 😉

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See this is all within us. It’s only we, who can make ourselves happy. So come on, this time again lets commit ourselves for another happier and better new year. Welcome this 2015 with all the enthusiasm and positive spirit, with the jazba (Passion) of making everything better and happier which wouldn’t worked in 2014. We got another year to do the undid things, to try the untried risks and to live a even better and happier life.

Why am i repeating “better and happier” phrase again and again?? Yeah, many of you must be thinking that the author has gone nuts. But guys trust me positive energy can’t be controlled. Once you realize its power, its overwhelming. You then, just want others to be benefited and you try hard to do that. We can focus on things we want to focus on. It is within us. If we decide to be better and happier in everything we do, mark my words, results will be awesome..simply AWESOME.

Sorry guys, i won’t be wishing great WORDY wishes like everlasting happiness, peace prosperity blah..blah..&..blah. i will simply wish, for everyone out there, a “better” and “happier’ life on a day to day basis. i wish that every passing day will be better than the previous one gone, at least in one aspect. Let the new year brings new hope, new trusts, new people and new life in your day to day work. New people will bring you new realizations, a “must” factor for a happier life. 😉

New Year WishesP.S. For new members  related past post – https://namiwise.wordpress.com/2013/01/03/happier-new-year/

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My Eternal Gratitude !!


If there is one thing that this going year 2014 taught me, is that letting go is okay.

Not everyone and everything is meant to stay in your life forever. And coming to this realization, helps you find a way to go with the flow of life. Circumstances, People and Feelings come and go, but you can’t let all these stop you from doing what is best for you.

When you finally accept that it’s OK not to have answers to everything and it’s OK not to be perfect, you realize that feeling confused is a normal part of what it is to be a human being. While living with the flow of life, all the pieces will naturally fall in place. So don’t get confused and live the life, don’t create hurdles.

Thanks to those who hated me, they made me stronger.
Thanks to those who left me, they made me realize that nothing lasts forever.
Thanks to those who stayed, they showed me true relations.
Thanks to those who loved me, they made my heart smile.
Thanks to those who cared, they made me feel important.
Thanks to those who were worried about me, they let me know that they actually cared.
Thanks to all those who entered my life, they made me who I am today.

Just wanna thank you all for being there in my life, whatever I might have meant to you.

Thanks to everything & everyone out there.

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The Only Aid


 

 

 

lockFalling, disappointment, sadness, feeling down, blahblabla….. all negatives are also the part of life.

My happiness is in my hands. No one but i am the maker of my mood, my day, my life. Why and how the hell anyone out there can hit me inside?? No one can. No one has that right.

 
RISE every time i fall, i IGNORE & KICK OUT disappointments, i CHEER UP in sadness, i SMILE every time i am down. i Say – “Yes !! i can change my mood, and i WILL.”  CRY??.. yes i cry hard but then i SMILE HARDER. yohooo… i am happy, i made myself happy and i promise to be back again from lows, in lesser efforts..

The key to my mood, my feelings is in my hands, i know better which way to unlock. 😉

Happiness

 

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I Trust YOU !!


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Let no negative thoughts come in. Emit only and only positive energy.

Gradually you will begin to feel the power of trusting.

Don’t be afraid. Overcome your fear.

Trust till the end. If you don’t trust it is the end anyway.

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HOPE v/s FREEDOM


 

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ANOTHER CONTRARY TALK

 

Losing All Hope is Freedom.

Never Lose Hope.

 

Read somewhere – “Never lose hope”. Also read “losing all hope is freedom”. How contradictory !! This is the same controversial thing I have posted some time back. Another adds up to the list 😉

Namiwise –

  1. “Losing All Hope is Freedom”, then why is it said that – “Never Lose Hope” ??
  2. Why  “Never Lose Hope” if  “Losing All Hope is Freedom” ??

HOPE – very vague term. Can be used, twisted & turned person to person. So much subjective in nature. It is our state of mind that matters. Hope binds us (hope is bandhan). In general hope means desire. And desire gives rise to bondages. If I want to be free, there should not be any hope. If we want to be free from bondages, we have to obviously lose hope (bondages). When there is hope without any desire than it may be called “faith”. Faith should again be desireless. There should not be any craving no aversion. This is the bottom line. Whether I hope, not hope, desire, not desire, have faith or don’t have faith , in every situation my very state of mind should be equanimous. Then it will work.

Never lose hope is sort of craving and when it becomes intense you will never get what you are not losing hope for. And at that very stage, the last stage, your mind will get desire free and you lose all and feel free. AND ..AND…YES THEN..WHOOSSHH… here it appears what you no more hope for. THIS IS THE REAL LAW OF NATURE.

Never lose hope and keep doing efforts but never let it overtake your state of mind of calmness and at the end of the day when you lose all hope you will be FREE. FREE like you were born anew, free as you were on the first day.. with no hope, no desire, no faith ..nothing. just calm and equanimous.

“Never Lose Hope” will keep me going. Will keep me alive. that is necessary for living and “Losing All Hope” is actual and real freedom and is very necessary for DYING. Will help me die.

 

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P.S.

That means hope binds us, hope is bandhan. If I want to be free then there should not be any hope but faith. Yes faith is better than hope. Hope is asakti bhara.. hope is desire.. but faith is vishwas, vishwas is always greater than desire.

Faith is desireless. If there is desire then it comes craving, when craving comes then the thought does not remain pure, but it gets spoiled by the ego, by desire.

Faith sets us free from desire, from hope. Hope is craving, faith is bhakti.

If I hope I cannot be free, if I want to be free I have to lose all hope.

Set myself free from hope. No hopes means no desire, no desire means no craving, means no tension means free.

Faith is trust, devotion. Hope is expectation, and expectation hurts..always.

Lose hope but gain faith.

Strong faith can beat all hopes.

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Here’s To The Woman !!


You are the best

Here’s to the woman..

Who knows where she’s going, and will keep on until she gets there.

Who knows not only what she wants from life, but she has to offer in return.

Here’s to the woman, who is loyal to family and friends.

Who expects no more from others, than she is willing to give.

Who gives the gifts of her thoughtfulness

Who shows her caring with a word of support, her understanding with a smile.

Here’s to A woman who brings joy to others… JUST BY BEING HERSELF..

Happy International Woman Day

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Simple & Straight


Put the past behind you and move on. Keep running.

Sometimes it will stop raining, sun will come up.

I couldn’t say when.

just keep running

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Back Again !!


It is easy to start, much easier to end. What matters is how long it sustained.

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Dear Life


Dear Life, Happy Teacher’s Day

 

Happy Teachers Day

 

 

 

 

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LIVE The Life.. Its Good..


In 1923, eight of the wealthiest people in the world met. Their combined wealth, it is estimated, exceeded the wealth of the government of the United States at that time. These men certainly knew how to make a living and accumulate wealth.

But let’s examine what happened to them 25 years later.  Continue reading

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