It’s a dream

From last few days I was trying on some lucid dreaming. Yes,  lucid dreaming means conscious dreaming.

Science says,  there are conscious, unconscious and subconscious mind.  When we are awake our conscious mind is active. We are aware (so called) of everything. But when we are asleep our subconscious mind works. This is where the dreams come from.

Lucid dreaming is not that easy. When you try doing it, conscious mind can’t go completely inactive. And then You can’t sleep when your mind is working. It is like a vicious circle.

IS THIS A DREAM?
Now, what I am experimenting is being aware in dreams. That is knowing that i am dreaming. My first logic is whenever something unusual happens, I ask “is this a dream? “. Sounds easy huh ?? but it’s not that easy. We are so used to and habitual to dreams that we don’t even realize when we dream. We take it as reality until we wake up.

REVERSE GEAR
Second, I ask,  “what happened few moments back?” , “how I reached here?”. It happens only in dreams that we suddenly land up at some random place or situation. We don’t know what happened earlier and how we came at that place.

SET OF PEOPLE
It happens in dream that our two sets of people we know assemble together at one place. Like, in one of my dreams i have my school and college friends gathered at one place and interacting,. They don’t know each other in real lives but they do in my dreams.

SO FAR..
From above practices and experimenting, i learned a bit aobut Lucid Dreaming. Sometimes it happens that we can’t differentiate between dream and reality unless something unusual / unwanted happens. Like, I remember once I lost my mobile.. Then I asked myself where did I forgot it, when I saw it last time. Chill, this is a dream. Mobile is safe 😛

In the same scene earlier, I was in a marriage. Don’t know whose, don’t know what place, all unknown people. Which does not happens normally. Point here is,  my mind didn’t questioned anything unless my mobile was lost. And then, as my conscious mind started waking and realising that it is a dream, I was no more dreaming. Sigh.

Still need more practice. Learning is a continuous process and am learning.

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Focus

Came across this on some FB group. It ignited a war of words within me. It’s always been a topic of debate.

Yes I am from that generation. (Most of us are.) I was one of those kids. I had seen my mother sacrificing everything only to make us happy. Somewhere deep down I also had that feeling that sacrifice is the only way to live.

This type of conditioning need to be changed. Of course, parents are not doing this intentionally. They are not telling or teaching their children to sacrifice for other’s happiness. They are just doing what they have learnt by watching their parents. And their children see them and learn. Children learn what they see.

As the time passes and kids grow up, it becomes a habit. Sacrificing and compromising is now a part of  the behavior. As a kid and still in teenage, they continue to think of others (definitely our loved ones) before “own self”. This mindset, if not changed and, if freezes deep down in roots of mind, will do no good but bad. So,this wiring need a repair-maintenance in today’s world.

Time has changed and so should we.

I am not saying that don’t think about others at all. It is like “don’t think of others at the cost of your own self”. As I grow up I realized that it is more important to make “yourself” happy before others. Whenever making others happy calls for a sacrifice or a compromise, never take that call. If ever you do or if you have to then don’t call it a relation. It was just a give-take business.

NOW I am shifting focus of my camera to “myself” from others.

Now, I am not going to sacrifice any damn thing for anyone out there. Yes you heard me right.. I won’t. Till now I had done what I did. Now I will live my own life.. making ME happy first.. then others.

Ask yourself – Happy me or happy others ?? I agree I am not that that kind who will always be happy to make others happy (and myself unhappy). I will be happy if I am happy. Without sacrifices without compromises. As simple as that.

Let us live our OWN life happily.

I started loving myself and will going to be happy. JUST FOR ME.. YES CALL ME SELFISH.

 

One of my very good friend told me. She is so true saying this.

“Khud ke liye bahut baar bura banana padta he. And when this happens you learn better that it is just you and yourself who matters.”

 

So, Come on world call me bad, call me selfish, call me arrogant but this is me.. This is happy me and free me.

 

P.S. alright I am taking this risk of writing this. I challenged myself to be me and no more hiding. No hard feelings.

P.P.S – I do not care for what people think of me. What i think of myself is what matters. Breaking my “statue” in your hands.

It’s YOUR OWN life !! Live Good.

In one of my earlier posts Addiction Redefined i mentioned about 90 / 10 Principle. Seriously, it slipped off my mind until a friend requested it and me too came across situations which remind me of this.  So here it goes..90/10 Principle by Stephen Covey

It will change your life
(or at least, the way you react to situations)

We cannot stop the car from breaking down.
The plane will be arriving late, which throws our whole schedule off.
A driver may cut us off in the traffic.

You CAN control 90% of your life – by how you react to the 10% you can’t control. You yourself can influence your attitudes, behaviors, thoughts, and words.

 

We are into the habit of reacting almost immediately to what was happening around without any attempt to control our reactions in any way. Because of that, our reactions were negative and destructive.

 

 Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 Principle.

If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You do not have to let the negative comments affect you. React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, or getting stressed out.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in the traffic?
Do you lose your temper?
Pound on the steering wheel?
Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket?
Who cares if you arrive 10 seconds later at work?
Why let the cars ruin your drive?

Remember the 90/10 Principle and don’t worry about it.

You are told you lost your job.
Why lose sleep and get irritated?
It will not work out.
Use your worrying energy and time to find a new job.

The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day.
Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant?
She has no control over what is going on.
It will just make things worse.
Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger, why stress out?

Supposed To Be A One Liner

Make your heart and mind learn to have no expectations. Train them for everything but expectation. Expectation hurts badly, very badly. Except expectation or accept hurts. Your life, your choice. Live wisely !!

A Different New Year Wish !!

Another 365 days gone and here comes a fresher new year to be exploited for all the opportunities you missed in last 365 days. Wish you all Another Happier New Year…hope 2014 was better and happier than 2013, a bit if not much.. 😉

See this is all within us. It’s only we, who can make ourselves happy. So come on, this time again lets commit ourselves for another happier and better new year. Welcome this 2015 with all the enthusiasm and positive spirit, with the jazba (Passion) of making everything better and happier which wouldn’t worked in 2014. We got another year to do the undid things, to try the untried risks and to live a even better and happier life.

Why am i repeating “better and happier” phrase again and again?? Yeah, many of you must be thinking that the author has gone nuts. But guys trust me positive energy can’t be controlled. Once you realize its power, its overwhelming. You then, just want others to be benefited and you try hard to do that. We can focus on things we want to focus on. It is within us. If we decide to be better and happier in everything we do, mark my words, results will be awesome..simply AWESOME.

Sorry guys, i won’t be wishing great WORDY wishes like everlasting happiness, peace prosperity blah..blah..&..blah. i will simply wish, for everyone out there, a “better” and “happier’ life on a day to day basis. i wish that every passing day will be better than the previous one gone, at least in one aspect. Let the new year brings new hope, new trusts, new people and new life in your day to day work. New people will bring you new realizations, a “must” factor for a happier life. 😉

P.S. For new members  related past post – https://namiwise.wordpress.com/2013/01/03/happier-new-year/

This is She

She has secrets you’ll never know or understand.

She appears so strong on the outside,
but on the inside her world is spinning upside down.
She is smiling and standing tall to the outer world,
she is crying and breaking down in her inner world.

She appears so happy to her mates,
but alone, she shares her tears with her pillow.
She knows not to get her hopes up,
as they always come crashing down.
She has heard it all before & felt it all,
She has experienced more than her fair share.

One touch & she’ll flinch
One harsh word & she’ll cry
One bad moment, & she’ll break down

She trusts no one, because the people she has, hurt her & leave her to pick up the pieces
She believes no one, because the people she has, lie & betray her.
So for now she’ll keep to herself  & pretend everything is fine, when everything is wrong

I know this girl, because this girl…

The Only Aid

 

 

 

Falling, disappointment, sadness, feeling down, blahblabla….. all negatives are also the part of life.

My happiness is in my hands. No one but i am the maker of my mood, my day, my life. Why and how the hell anyone out there can hit me inside?? No one can. No one has that right.

 
i RISE every time i fall, i IGNORE & KICK OUT disappointments, i CHEER UP in sadness, i SMILE every time i am down. i Say – “Yes !! i can change my mood, and i WILL.”  CRY??.. yes i cry hard but then i SMILE HARDER. yohooo… i am happy, i made myself happy and i promise to be back again from lows, in lesser efforts..

The key to my mood, my feelings is in my hands, i know better which way to unlock. 😉

 

I Trust YOU !!

Let no negative thoughts come in. Emit only and only positive energy.

Gradually you will begin to feel the power of trusting.

Don’t be afraid. Overcome your fear.

Trust till the end. If you don’t trust it is the end anyway.

HOPE v/s FREEDOM

 

 

ANOTHER CONTRARY TALK

 

Losing All Hope is Freedom.

Never Lose Hope.

 

Read somewhere – “Never lose hope”. Also read “losing all hope is freedom”. How contradictory !! This is the same controversial thing I have posted some time back. Another adds up to the list 😉

Namiwise –

1. “Losing All Hope is Freedom”, then why is it said that – “Never Lose Hope” ??
2. Why  “Never Lose Hope” if  “Losing All Hope is Freedom” ??

HOPE – very vague term. Can be used, twisted & turned person to person. So much subjective in nature. It is our state of mind that matters. Hope binds us (hope is bandhan). In general hope means desire. And desire gives rise to bondages. If I want to be free, there should not be any hope. If we want to be free from bondages, we have to obviously lose hope (bondages). When there is hope without any desire than it may be called “faith”. Faith should again be desireless. There should not be any craving no aversion. This is the bottom line. Whether I hope, not hope, desire, not desire, have faith or don’t have faith , in every situation my very state of mind should be equanimous. Then it will work.

Never lose hope is sort of craving and when it becomes intense you will never get what you are not losing hope for. And at that very stage, the last stage, your mind will get desire free and you lose all and feel free. AND ..AND…YES THEN..WHOOSSHH… here it appears what you no more hope for. THIS IS THE REAL LAW OF NATURE.

Never lose hope and keep doing efforts but never let it overtake your state of mind of calmness and at the end of the day when you lose all hope you will be FREE. FREE like you were born anew, free as you were on the first day.. with no hope, no desire, no faith ..nothing. just calm and equanimous.

“Never Lose Hope” will keep me going. Will keep me alive. that is necessary for living and “Losing All Hope” is actual and real freedom and is very necessary for DYING. Will help me die.

 

P.S.

That means hope binds us, hope is bandhan. If I want to be free then there should not be any hope but faith. Yes faith is better than hope. Hope is asakti bhara.. hope is desire.. but faith is vishwas, vishwas is always greater than desire.

Faith is desireless. If there is desire then it comes craving, when craving comes then the thought does not remain pure, but it gets spoiled by the ego, by desire.

Faith sets us free from desire, from hope. Hope is craving, faith is bhakti.

If I hope I cannot be free, if I want to be free I have to lose all hope.

Set myself free from hope. No hopes means no desire, no desire means no craving, means no tension means free.

Faith is trust, devotion. Hope is expectation, and expectation hurts..always.

Lose hope but gain faith.

Strong faith can beat all hopes.

Here’s To The Woman !!

Who knows where she’s going, and will keep on until she gets there.

Who knows not only what she wants from life, but she has to offer in return.

Here’s to the woman, who is loyal to family and friends.

Who expects no more from others, than she is willing to give.

Who gives the gifts of her thoughtfulness

Who shows her caring with a word of support, her understanding with a smile.

Here’s to A woman who brings joy to others… JUST BY BEING HERSELF..

HO..HO..HO..

Good will, success and happiness be with you this Christmas!!

Christmas is a time to reflect

On all that God has done

It’s not a matter of what we get,

But the birth of the Holy one

It’s not about gifts

With ribbons and bows,

Or Christmas trees,

Tinsel and mistletoe

The Christmas gift given to us,

Is Jesus Christ’s

Gift of love.

Simple & Straight

Put the past behind you and move on. Keep running.

Sometimes it will stop raining, sun will come up.

I couldn’t say when.

Back Again !!

It is easy to start, much easier to end. What matters is how long it sustained.

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Translate in English

       किसी अपने की सलाह थी – खुश होना सिखा है बेटा, तो दुख को भी समझना | इसके बड़े
गहरे मायने थे |

उन लोगों को देखकर हैरानी होती है, जो दर्द को दबाने की कोशिश करते है | किसी भी तकलीफ से निपटने का तरीका, उसे दबाने से हासिल नहीं होता | उसका सामना करने से मिलता है | ज़ख्म अँधेरे में रोशन होते है | दर्द तभी चमकता है | उसकी लौ का अहसास रखना उसकी कद्र करना है |

कोई दिल दुखाए, तो महसूस करना | दर्द को शिद्दत से नापना | कोई अपमानित करे, तो उसके प्रति लापरवाही न बरतना | अपमान को महसूस करना | सारे अहसास तरतीब से जमे रहेंगे, तो उसूल बनाने का कोई कारण रहेगा | उसूलों को वही समझ सकता है, जो सारे अहसासात की कद्र करता हो |

कंधे झटक कर, गर किसी अहसास से किनारा किया, तो तजुर्बे की एक राह छुट जाएगी | ज़िन्दगी की बदसूरतियों को बेनकाब देखने की मंशा किसी की नहीं होती, लेकिन इनसे कभी न कभी सामना होगा, इनसे इंकार भी कैसे किया जा सकता है | हमेशा काफिले साथ नहीं होते, कहीं तन्हा भी चलना पड़ता है | तकलीफ के ज्वार से, अपने उसूलों को थामकर निकले, तो जीत का वो अहसास होगा, जिसका ईनाम मज़बूत शख्सियत के तौर पर मिलेगा |