Never tell your secrets to anyone.
If YOU can’t keep it,
how can THEY ??
P.S – As simple as that 😉
Never tell your secrets to anyone.
If YOU can’t keep it,
how can THEY ??
P.S – As simple as that 😉
Came across this on some FB group. It ignited a war of words within me. It’s always been a topic of debate.
Yes I am from that generation. (Most of us are.) I was one of those kids. I had seen my mother sacrificing everything only to make us happy. Somewhere deep down I also had that feeling that sacrifice is the only way to live.
This type of conditioning need to be changed. Of course, parents are not doing this intentionally. They are not telling or teaching their children to sacrifice for other’s happiness. They are just doing what they have learnt by watching their parents. And their children see them and learn. Children learn what they see.
As the time passes and kids grow up, it becomes a habit. Sacrificing and compromising is now a part of the behavior. As a kid and still in teenage, they continue to think of others (definitely our loved ones) before “own self”. This mindset, if not changed and, if freezes deep down in roots of mind, will do no good but bad. So,this wiring need a repair-maintenance in today’s world.
I am not saying that don’t think about others at all. It is like “don’t think of others at the cost of your own self”. As I grow up I realized that it is more important to make “yourself” happy before others. Whenever making others happy calls for a sacrifice or a compromise, never take that call. If ever you do or if you have to then don’t call it a relation. It was just a give-take business.
Now, I am not going to sacrifice any damn thing for anyone out there. Yes you heard me right.. I won’t. Till now I had done what I did. Now I will live my own life.. making ME happy first.. then others.
Ask yourself – Happy me or happy others ?? I agree I am not that that kind who will always be happy to make others happy (and myself unhappy). I will be happy if I am happy. Without sacrifices without compromises. As simple as that.
I started loving myself and will going to be happy. JUST FOR ME.. YES CALL ME SELFISH.
One of my very good friend told me. She is so true saying this.
“Khud ke liye bahut baar bura banana padta he. And when this happens you learn better that it is just you and yourself who matters.”
So, Come on world call me bad, call me selfish, call me arrogant but this is me.. This is happy me and free me.
P.S. alright I am taking this risk of writing this. I challenged myself to be me and no more hiding. No hard feelings.
P.P.S – I do not care for what people think of me. What i think of myself is what matters. Breaking my “statue” in your hands.
Make your heart and mind learn to have no expectations. Train them for everything but expectation. Expectation hurts badly, very badly. Except expectation or accept hurts. Your life, your choice. Live wisely !!
Another 365 days gone and here comes a fresher new year to be exploited for all the opportunities you missed in last 365 days. Wish you all Another Happier New Year…hope 2014 was better and happier than 2013, a bit if not much.. 😉
See this is all within us. It’s only we, who can make ourselves happy. So come on, this time again lets commit ourselves for another happier and better new year. Welcome this 2015 with all the enthusiasm and positive spirit, with the jazba (Passion) of making everything better and happier which wouldn’t worked in 2014. We got another year to do the undid things, to try the untried risks and to live a even better and happier life.
Why am i repeating “better and happier” phrase again and again?? Yeah, many of you must be thinking that the author has gone nuts. But guys trust me positive energy can’t be controlled. Once you realize its power, its overwhelming. You then, just want others to be benefited and you try hard to do that. We can focus on things we want to focus on. It is within us. If we decide to be better and happier in everything we do, mark my words, results will be awesome..simply AWESOME.
Sorry guys, i won’t be wishing great WORDY wishes like everlasting happiness, peace prosperity blah..blah..&..blah. i will simply wish, for everyone out there, a “better” and “happier’ life on a day to day basis. i wish that every passing day will be better than the previous one gone, at least in one aspect. Let the new year brings new hope, new trusts, new people and new life in your day to day work. New people will bring you new realizations, a “must” factor for a happier life. 😉
P.S. For new members related past post – https://namiwise.wordpress.com/2013/01/03/happier-new-year/
If there is one thing that this going year 2014 taught me, is that letting go is okay.
Not everyone and everything is meant to stay in your life forever. And coming to this realization, helps you find a way to go with the flow of life. Circumstances, People and Feelings come and go, but you can’t let all these stop you from doing what is best for you.
When you finally accept that it’s OK not to have answers to everything and it’s OK not to be perfect, you realize that feeling confused is a normal part of what it is to be a human being. While living with the flow of life, all the pieces will naturally fall in place. So don’t get confused and live the life, don’t create hurdles.
Thanks to those who hated me, they made me stronger.
Thanks to those who left me, they made me realize that nothing lasts forever.
Thanks to those who stayed, they showed me true relations.
Thanks to those who loved me, they made my heart smile.
Thanks to those who cared, they made me feel important.
Thanks to those who were worried about me, they let me know that they actually cared.
Thanks to all those who entered my life, they made me who I am today.
Just wanna thank you all for being there in my life, whatever I might have meant to you.
Thanks to everything & everyone out there.
My happiness is in my hands. No one but i am the maker of my mood, my day, my life. Why and how the hell anyone out there can hit me inside?? No one can. No one has that right.
i RISE every time i fall, i IGNORE & KICK OUT disappointments, i CHEER UP in sadness, i SMILE every time i am down. i Say – “Yes !! i can change my mood, and i WILL.” CRY??.. yes i cry hard but then i SMILE HARDER. yohooo… i am happy, i made myself happy and i promise to be back again from lows, in lesser efforts..
ANOTHER CONTRARY TALK
Losing All Hope is Freedom.
Never Lose Hope.
Read somewhere – “Never lose hope”. Also read “losing all hope is freedom”. How contradictory !! This is the same controversial thing I have posted some time back. Another adds up to the list 😉
HOPE – very vague term. Can be used, twisted & turned person to person. So much subjective in nature. It is our state of mind that matters. Hope binds us (hope is bandhan). In general hope means desire. And desire gives rise to bondages. If I want to be free, there should not be any hope. If we want to be free from bondages, we have to obviously lose hope (bondages). When there is hope without any desire than it may be called “faith”. Faith should again be desireless. There should not be any craving no aversion. This is the bottom line. Whether I hope, not hope, desire, not desire, have faith or don’t have faith , in every situation my very state of mind should be equanimous. Then it will work.
Never lose hope is sort of craving and when it becomes intense you will never get what you are not losing hope for. And at that very stage, the last stage, your mind will get desire free and you lose all and feel free. AND ..AND…YES THEN..WHOOSSHH… here it appears what you no more hope for. THIS IS THE REAL LAW OF NATURE.
Never lose hope and keep doing efforts but never let it overtake your state of mind of calmness and at the end of the day when you lose all hope you will be FREE. FREE like you were born anew, free as you were on the first day.. with no hope, no desire, no faith ..nothing. just calm and equanimous.
“Never Lose Hope” will keep me going. Will keep me alive. that is necessary for living and “Losing All Hope” is actual and real freedom and is very necessary for DYING. Will help me die.
That means hope binds us, hope is bandhan. If I want to be free then there should not be any hope but faith. Yes faith is better than hope. Hope is asakti bhara.. hope is desire.. but faith is vishwas, vishwas is always greater than desire.
Faith is desireless. If there is desire then it comes craving, when craving comes then the thought does not remain pure, but it gets spoiled by the ego, by desire.
Faith sets us free from desire, from hope. Hope is craving, faith is bhakti.
If I hope I cannot be free, if I want to be free I have to lose all hope.
Set myself free from hope. No hopes means no desire, no desire means no craving, means no tension means free.
Faith is trust, devotion. Hope is expectation, and expectation hurts..always.
Lose hope but gain faith.
Strong faith can beat all hopes.
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